Forgive, Forget and Move On

Forgive, Forget and Move On

Posted by Aditya on Sat, 2008-05-31 19:19 in

The ability to put down insights and wisdom into simple words is hard. Of course this mandates having a clear thinking mind as a prerequisite, but still the art of writing clearly is a gift for a few only.

I read some very simple thought provoking lines recently. The source was quite unexpected i must admit. Here is a small excerpt from Jed Rubenfeld's The Interpretation of Murder.

There is no mystery to happiness.
Unhappy men are all alike. Some wound they suffered long ago, some wish denied, some blow to pride, some kindling spark of love put out by scorn—or worse, indifference—cleaves to them, or they to it, and so they live each day within a shroud of yesterdays. The happy man does not look back. He doesn’t look ahead. He lives in the present.

I have not read any spiritual writings (am too young and naive for it yet), but i am pretty sure the simple thought above would have been elaborated at many places.

'Forgive and Forget' is a difficult saying to follow for many of us, but it indeed can heal most of our scars. I am not advocating accepting any injustice, but to those hurtful things that we think were unfair to us, we should 'Forgive, Forget and Move On'.

Hi Aditya Stumbled across

Hi Aditya

Stumbled across your site today and have quite enjoyed reading the selection of articles that have caught your fancy.

In connection with this post, while you have focused on how to handle the past, i would like to point out that Jed Rubenfeld also commented that the future should also be ignored. Many people suffer from the affliction of "planning for the future, while neglecting the present". Thoughts?


Posted by Anonymous (not verified) on Mon, 2009-10-19 15:52

Thank you for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. In my opinion, one should consciously avoid the mistake of 'neglecting the present'. Very few do it intentionally, but it just creeps in somewhere - 'I'll have lot more fun when i have X', 'I'll be far more happy when i achieve Y' ...

I am not saying one should not be planning for the future or have goals in life, but if they come at cost of relationships/time/good experiences at the moment, they seriously need to be looked upon.

One of my personal favorite quotes (self invented :-)) -- I'll never be 28 ever again. :-)

Posted by Aditya on Tue, 2009-10-20 08:21
Hi Aditya!!!!!! We are

Hi Aditya!!!!!!

We are having soft skills training classes in which we are told by our teacher that forgiving and forgetting is the bst way we can keep ourselves happy,free of tension or any burden....and many more things....when i read ur article i really got touched..there are very few people who read or search things like this.Thank you for this using this i can help one of my friend come out of a grief that she is going through right now!!!!!!!!

Posted by Anonymous (not verified) on Thu, 2011-03-10 23:20